Dating advice for over 50
My guest on this latest episode of the Sixty and Me Show is Lisa Copeland, a dynamic writer, blogger and successful over 50 dating coach.She focuses specifically on working with women over 50, who, she feels, often approach dating with misconceptions and unrealistic goals.
• But by far the most important advice I can give is LISTEN! Yes, money is important (I don't have much, so I can only assume from what I've heard), and being attractive is great (I'm not Clooney but I try my best.) But listening trumps them all. Being genuinely interested in hearing about their histories, their successes, their disappointments, their journeys yet to take. • And fourth, listening is an amazingly under-appreciated talent. Hearing someone's story and details about their life is what it's all about, as far as I'm concerned.
" I hesitated, because that "for better or for worse / in sickness and in health" part of the marriage vows was echoing through my mind, and I'm a big fan of loyalty at all costs. " He said he lived in a small town and did not know any women. "He told me he wanted to be alone." She rolled her eyes, then flashed a nervous smile. I suggested she might find kindred spirits at events or on trips for educators, or simply by pursuing whatever activities and hobbies she loves. "Go out to eat in restaurants — alone, not with a friend. I had to leave my comfort zone just to come up to you." "But see? Now just keep going." I told her she was pretty, engaging and easy to talk to, and that men would find her likewise. "Go out for breakfast or lunch." I have no doubt she will.
But as I looked into his eyes and listened to him speak, I saw a kind, down-to-earth person. "Even if you meet no one," I pointed out, "you'll have fun. And the attendees around her seemed to like the idea, too — fingers crossed that they put it into action!
I am always stunned by how most people just don't listen, and how far one can get simply by listening.
Most women over 50 have been in relationships with men who don't care much about what they have to say.